Are you looking for a roadmap to help deal with your disorganized inner world?

Or are you trying to find ways to deal with feeling overwhelmed or shut down?

One of the great difficulties of trauma is we are left confused, disoriented, and lost, uncertain which direction to go it. Worst of all we don’t feel comfortable in our own bodies, hearts and minds

Maybe you’ve had that experience as well? 

Most people who are dealing with stress, trauma, and relationship issues want to make sense of what's going on. 

They're looking for ways to calm the body, relax their nervous system, and feel in safe in their own skin. 

Everyone healing trauma feels disorganized and confused. For many this kind of disorientation happens until they learn how to sort out all the many pieces of their inner world.

That’s what the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills are all about: organizing what’s confusing and disorienting so you can live a more satisfying and fulfilling life. 

If you are looking for answers, the Becoming Safely Embodied Online Skills might be what you are looking for

"Get better faster...."

Years ago, when I first designed and created the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ Groups my colleague, Janina Fisher, referred all her clients to the group. 

She said her clients "Get better faster" after taking the group. 

I want the same for you. 

I want you to have the experience of calming your body, soothing your heart and training your mind to go where you want it to go instead of where your history propels you. 

Healing from life's difficulties is hard. That’s true.  

It takes longer than any of us would ever want it to.

The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ are practices to help you do exactly what the name suggests: become safely embodied 

"Thanks for your helpful re-cap of the steps you take to stay calm and centered and your emphasis on practice, so that it all comes naturally in times of distress. 

I got so much out of the BSE Course, and continue to find so much comfort in your newsletter. I really appreciate your personal experience and how you deal with it. " ~ Mary, Dallas, USA



How I came up with all this - The Background Story

Before my memories came up I was living a really active life, in my body all the time, cycling about 250 miles a week in the mountains and hills of the Berkshires, doing yoga and meditation every day, swimming 4-5 times a week intensively, and running every day. I loved it. Loved being in my body.

That all changed when my memories came up. It was like I hit a brick wall, no longer wanting to do anything. In fact I was running away from being anywhere near my body. Where before I enjoyed the ease that came being active or deep in meditation I now encountered a cesspool when I slowed down and tried to go inside. I felt like a burn victim – my skin raw no longer holding back the roiling, overwhelming, inflamed experience that I lived in inside. It was horrible. 

Over the years I had great therapy from some wonderful therapists. They helped me put the pieces together again. 

I found, though, that as wonderful as my therapists were there were many, many, sometimes torturous hours between each therapy session. I battled with myself daily, trying to figure out what the heck was going on and how I could find my way through. I went back to the basics I learned while living at Kripalu and applying the yogic principles of how to be in the body. 

I won’t bore you with all the details, but the sum of all the years of healing became the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™.

I first launched the group in the Boston area in the late 1990’s. Over the years I’ve had at least one group a year. Then as the demand grew I often had multiple groups happening at the same time often with the help of Janina Fisher who co-led groups with me. 

It was a joy to see people to getting the help they were looking for – and getting better as a result of the skills and the work they were doing with their individual therapist. 

Since then I’ve gotten phone calls and emails from people wanting to know if a group was near them. Many people are lucky to find therapists throughout the US, Canada, Ireland, and the UK who have been trained to lead the Becoming Safely Embodied™ groups. I get emails from many of you and I’m moved by the stories of your healing. 

Yet, there are others who don’t have Becoming Safely Embodied™ groups nearby, or for whom the times don’t work or it’s too threatening to go to a group where your professional cover might be breached. 

 

"You know, Deirdre your words, ‘we are deliberately and consciously changing our lives’ are fundamentally important to trauma survivors. Trauma left us with no control whatsoever. At the mercy of the trauma. Utterly helpless. 

How miraculous it is to read your words and know, from one (you) who has worked with the practice so intensely, that we can change our lives. 

We do not have to live ever subservient to the trauma as it replays its destructive cycle. 

To know and believed we can choose to change is to me a miracle. 

I know in the BSE you refer to ‘choice points’. I have often reminded myself that there are choice points every day I survive. Sometimes I pop post it notes around to remind me, sometimes I light a candle of thanks and open to Spirit with gratitude." 

~Bunchy (UK) 

Practice at Your Own Pace

Simple practices make the concepts applicable to your life, at ways that work for you. No rush. No agenda, except to help you find a way through. 

Make Sense of Inside Mess

Our inner world can be confusing. The BSE skills help untangle that.

Baby Steps

Deconstruct difficult into small, manageable steps to allow healing to naturally emerge

You are NOT stuck

All beings are designed to grow and develop. Difficulty can help us grow-- IF we know how to work with it. That's what the BSE skills are for.

Research Based

Uses important research from trauma as foundation for experiential learning

Practical, Concrete Skills

Learn simple, easy to apply skills to use in everyday life to support the healing of trauma and to repair attachment wounds

"I received your latest newsletter and was reminded of the massive shift you helped me with about 3 years ago. I was on your BSE online course, used the materials. It truly was a revelation that my body had sensations, which were different from emotions- I still come back to this in my life now. 

I still struggle from time to time, but life is so much better than it was. So much better. We do recover. 

Thanks again for your inspiring and life changing work."

~Wayne, (UK)

Becoming Safely Embodied Online Skills Course with Deirdre Fay, LICSW

Training Based On Research

We've learned a great deal over the years as the research base has grown on treating trauma and attachment wounding. That knowledge- and it's easy to apply skills - form the basis of this training.

Learn from the inside out

The facts and the research provide the ground in which deeper wisdom arises. We access it through the body, learning the signals and the guidance that comes from within after synthesizing all forms of mental, emotional, psychological data. This makes for a richer, more comprehensive understanding. 

 Topics We'll Cover 

  • Why mindfulness and concentration are the two foundational skills for healing trauma
  • The basic building blocks that organize the inner world
  • How to deconstruct triggers
  • Time Boundaries & Reality/Irreality: the present moment and how we get dislodged and dislocated in time and space 
  • Belongingness and how that creates a healing environment  
  • The simple way to be in the present
  • Ways to calm your body and ease your mind

Grow & Develop

 You'll find it easier to be with life circumstances as you go through the course.

Make Sense of Your Inner World 

Instead of life being confusing or chaotic people and events will start to make more sense as you practice the BSE skills. 

"I was re-watching one of the videos from the course, finding them so helpful in making sense of what happens. I had such a strong feeling of, yes, that's exactly the chaotic horrible states I keep falling into over and over...it's just like that. Anyway it helped me calm down seeing it so clearly depicted!"

 ~ Teresa, (New York) 

The Modules: Becoming Safely Embodied Online Course

Module 1. What the Heck’s Going On In There? 

Learn how your history effects your body, mind, heart, and soul. Gain perspective and organize inner chaos. 

Most of us, when overwhelmed by life get jumbled inside, making it feel like a big mess. We can’t slow down our mind, our thoughts race, our bodies, well, it’s usually our nerves feel like they are going to explode out of our skin. Or the only recourse is to shut down, crawl into our beds and not come out again. 

This module explores the basic building blocks of each and every moment to untangle the moment so we can feel grounded and steady. 


 Module 2. Separating Facts From Feelings

What creates chaos? Why do we get disorganized? What control do we have over the process?  

With an understanding of some of the basic brain functions we’ll explore how to create more internal space and how you can put a wedge into experiences that numb or overwhelm you. 

This skill is you'll use over and over again.

Module 3. Working with Parts of Ourselves 

A helpful tool to understanding your internal psychology is to develop abiding and integrating relationships with the various parts of you that are holding different perspectives, interests, memories, all holding a positive intent to protect, serve, and guard against painful internal and external intrusions. 

The more we are able to do that the more we can sit in our true nature: calm, compassionate, kind, considerate, caring, thoughtful. The positive qualities are endless and worthy of cultivating. 


Module 4. Dealing with Our Parallel Lives: identifying and calming triggers 

This is one of the skills people tell me they use over and over again: learning how to deconstruct the triggering that happens. One of the most painful realities is when you get triggered, when you’re catapulted into fear, terror, panic, or have to numb against something. 

As you use the Parallel Lives to map out your internal psychological territory you’ll find yourself less prone to being ambushed. 


Module 5. Finding Choice Points 

One of the best news of all time is when you know you can alter the course of your lives, by that I mean you learn that you’re not stuck. 

This module in the Becoming Safely Embodied™ Course helps you learn to harness your energy and go where you want to go instead of being propelled somewhere by your history. 


Module 6. Letting Go of the Old Stories & Finding a More Nurturing Way to Live

Have you ever heard yourself talking about something in your life and it feels like you’ve said it so many times? It’s like a story that has got more juice the more you’ve told it. 

Well, this section of the course is about releasing those old stories and finding new stories that are motivating and propel you into the life you want. 



"Thanks for your very thoughtful responses to my lengthy rambling. I appreciate the insight and great care with which you respond. I appreciate being “gotten” in this way as so much of the burden of the depression and dark parts is feeling so isolated with it. Practicing the skills I feel more connected with others who share the difficult experiences. Helps me realize none of us are alone with it. Much to ponder and be grateful for."

~Mary, participant in BSE online course (USA)


Here's what you get when you register for the BSE skills online course that starts November ....... for six Fridays

I really loved the framework you have provided to deal with triggers' I know if will be helpful to me personally when triggered and for my clients when I share your framework with them. Thank you, I am really enjoying the material that you are sharing with us. 

~ Barbara

Video Calls with Deirdre 

Putting the BSE Sklls into practice is my primary goal. Each year I reassess how to make the course even better. This year I'll be meeting with you LIVE online to coach you and make the BSE Skills even more accessible.

Audios & Videos Make Concepts More Understandable

Each gets to the heart of the module, designed to help you to understand and use the material. 

These videos are designed to take complicated information and make it easy to understand -- and bettr yet, easy to apply!



BSE Course Handouts

Each week you’ll receive handouts corresponding to the material which will help you make the skills your own. 

Having handouts allows you to learn in another way, further internalizing the information - making it accessible when you really need it.

Group Wisdom

Your questions and comments spark other people’s questions and as a whole group we learn and develop together. I want to give you the support to put the skills to work in your life

Self-paced

You’ll get the Becoming Safely Embodied™ Skills Course delivered to you for six Fridays in a row, one session at a time. You’ll get the material and be able to work on it when it works for you. My goal is to help you learn the skills to have the life you want and to be with you as you apply the skills to your life. I want to you feel free to find ways to make the skills your own.  

Deirdre's Support

I’ll be checking in to see how you are doing. Your questions help me to help you integrate. Plus, your questions spark other people’s questions so we all learn and develop together. 

It's important to me to give you the support you need so you can put the skills to work in your life

Take advantage of this time to engage with Deirdre, using the material, writing comments and feedback, asking questions, getting responses from her. 

Learn everything she's learned from teaching these skills to thousands of people across the globe who have learned how to turn debilitating trauma symptoms into a better life. 

Unlock the secrets. Deirdre's input and coaching will help you find out why people say they "Get better faster."


How to Register for Course Start Date: November.......

The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills Course is delivered to your email six Fridays in a row starting November........ 

Each week you'll get an email from Deirdre letting you know the new material is up and waiting for you! This way you can move through the course material at a pace that works for you. The course material is there for you when you have time. Plus you can return to it again and again over the course of six months. 

You're always welcome to download the material and it's yours forever. 

Registration Information


A Word From Deirdre Fay

"One of the great joys of my life has been to walk with people on a gentle path to healing. Combining the best of trauma and attachment theory with practical skills makes a solid platform. But when you add the nourishment of yoga psychology and body awareness you open an even bigger portal for healing." 

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